A work in progress: All will be alright in Time

It has always been a goal of mine to be successful in life as shown in my previous blog. It's like a part of my DNA that calls me to find all the necessary means and ways to achieve success. I was addicted to it! That euphoric feeling of pride and bliss from seeing those around you being very happy of your achievements. But it was also empty at the same time. I was so focused on the "idea" of being successful that I ended up too engrossed in my search that I was filled with stress and anxiety from over exerting myself just to show that I am capable, that I am already "there". 

I believe that being connected over social media has made us "disconnected" with ourselves. We tend to see more the life of others and compare it with how mediocre our lives came to be. We're following all these "influencers" and "idols" thinking that their luxurious lifestyle and unseemly "problem-free" life should be our standard. With these matters becoming the current metrics, most especially for the youth of today, more and more people face issues such as low self-esteem or in extreme cases such anxiety and depression. Even I myself, am for one, guilty of that. It wasn't all smooth sailing for me, there were turbulent moments in my life when I really asked myself, "why am I not as successful as these people who posts of such achievements over social media?".

It took me a while before I realized what was wrong! That comparing my life with these people was wrong! That what happens with them should not be my metrics for success. Words are not enough to express how thankful I am that I was able to change my beliefs as early as now and I would like to share what caused this change inside of me. Let me share to you my WORK in progress that helped me understand that all will be alright in time.

Work on your goals

I noticed the reason why I was having doubts about my own life choices and how it was reflected in my career path. It was because my goals in life were unclear. I actually didn't know what I wanted in my life. I based my goals on what I see in others instead of what I really wanted in life. 

Spend time to reflect and understand what do you really want in life? If you could not find the answer, ask for help by finding a mentor who could help you in your search for answers. State clearly your goals by placing not only what you want to happen but also, when you want it to happen, how it should happen, and what is needed for it to happen. Don't be satisfied with just wishful thinking! Be sure to work on it, spend time to equip yourself with the skills and knowledge that is needed for you to achieve your goals.

Outdo yourself not others

Remember that the only competition you have is yourself. More often than not, we tend to look at others achievement and place them as our objective and hold them as our competition. Whether at work, studies, or even at play, having another person other than ourselves as the competition only pushes us at a certain limit. 

Be more growth conscious as a person! Remember that life is not a hundred meter dash but a long running marathon. Our journey as an individual and its development as a whole has an effective and more sustainable effect on our own self-esteem. Do not forget to celebrate even the smallest of growths however do not remain satisfied as well with the minimal outcome you can produce. Outdo yourself every single time. Ask yourself, was I any better than who I was yesterday?

Respect yourself

The moment we look at others as a higher individual in comparison with ourselves, we easily lose respect on ourselves. There will definitely be times where we cannot even look ourselves in the mirror but let's not forget the saying that "if we do not see ourselves any better, who else will?"

Reflect on your self and tell yourself that you have done a great job, one way or another. Find time to go out and have a little break from the routine you've built in order to realize that you need this time out. As the saying goes, Respect Begets Respect. It's so easy to give respect to those who are worthy of it in your eyes, but how about giving respect to those who don't quite measure up! To give respect to all and not just those you like is the true meaning of giving respect.

Kindness goes a long way

Lastly, be kind both to yourself and most especially to other people. Life is already full of hatred and suffering and the least we can do is to give as much kindness as we can in this world. Even the simplest act of random kindness would go a long way.

No matter how difficult the world can be, no matter how small we tend to see ourselves...

Never forget that "We are like snowflakes, all different in our own beautiful way"